Entitled Woman Always Forces Her Cousin to Pay for Her Expensive Meals, Cousin Accuses Her of Taking Advantage, Causing a Family Drama

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Shelly Pearl
Dec 25, 2024 7:00 PM EST

Reading this you're about to get hungry and angry at the same time, not to be confused with the collective 'hangry.' This beast is entirely new, taking its form in no other than your cousin. Well, not your cousin per se, but her cousin. This woman was yet again caught in the trap of her cousin's expensive tastes. However, as the saying goes, fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. Who's fault is it really? You can't change someone else's behavior but your own. 

Everything started innocently enough with a dinner invite, but old habits die hard even after 20 years. What are cousins to do? Hopefully, there can be some kind of middle ground before a full-blown family feud. Only time will tell, but one thing is for certain there won't be many family dinners out together if these two can help it, or can they?

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  • 01
    Fast forward to now-20 YEARS LATER and she invites me to a goodbye party she's hosting. I decide to go because, hey, it's been two decades. Big mistake.
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    r/Entitled People Cute Excitement5126 Entitled cousin who always wants to split the bill
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    When to or not to split the bill, is the question. Do you have the answer?

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    So, I need to vent and get advice about my cousin. This story starts 20 years ago when she was part of our friend group. Every time we went out, she'd order the most expensive meals, drinks, and
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    Expensive taste is someone in this family's Achilles heel, which wouldn't be a problem if she was financing it herself.

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    desserts. But that wasn't the worst part she would also order food to go for her brothers and then suggest we all split the bill equally.
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    The nerve of some people, let alone family.

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    It ped me off because I wasn't ordering anything extravagant. One time, I secretly told the waiter to do separate bills. When the checks came, she glared at me and said, "That's a b
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    Well, you can't choose who you're related to.

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    move." After that, I was unofficially booted from their outings. Whatever, right? I thought that chapter of my life was over.
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    I think she will live, not to mention her wallet will live to see another day. 

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    Fast forward to now-20 YEARS LATER and she invites me to a goodbye party she's hosting. I decide to go because, hey, it's been two decades. Big mistake. She picked the restaurant, and it was one of those fancy spots where even the appetizers are overpriced.
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    Did anyone expect anything less?

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    Guess what? She orders lobster, calamari, and her daughter gets steak. Then she casually orders food to take home for her other kid. All I had was a side Caesar
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    I'm getting hungry and angry at the same time reading this, aren't you?

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    salad because I knew what was coming. Sure enough, at the end of the night, she suggests we split the bill "to make it easier." Everyone agreed.
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    Bad habits die hard, don't they? 

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    I was livid. My little salad cost me close to what her feast cost, and I wasn't about to blow up in front of the group. To make matters worse, my niece told me later that her daughters have picked up this habit too. They'll pull the same stunt at group dinners.
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    Don't you hate it when children pick up their parent's bad habits? The cycle must be stopped. 

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    So, Reddit, how do I set boundaries with her and stop this insane behavior? I don't want to start a family war, but I also can't keep subsidizing her lavish dining
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    habits. Is it time for another "separate bills" move, or should I just avoid going out with her altogether?
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    Wisdomofpearl I would have looked at her and said "You invited me so I thought I was your guest, that is why I only ordered a salad." Turn that spotlight right on her. I would then offer to pay for what I had ordered.
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    Abystract-ism Start the trend of asking for a separate check UP FRONT. Be open about it-don't let anyone shame you! "Oh, I'm budgeting for my vacation/new shoes/groceries". Smile and enjoy her frustration.
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    chuckinhoutex Just say sorry- I'm going to put in 20 for my salad and then you can split it equally after that. Otherwise, I'm ordering 3 surf n turf's and 2 bottles of Dom to go.
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    THATONEFOOF... At some point you have to learn to say No. If you never do, this will always happen at any other situation. You kind of have yourself to blame. Learn to say No, and you'll never be inconvenienced again.
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    Cerulean_IsFanc... "Everyone agreed." Did you? If so, stop caving in. If not.... stop caving in. :)
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    Werm_Vessel Why can't people speak up for themselves instead saving face in front of people they don't even respect anyway. Shine that spine and stop the whine.
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    dog4cat2 Ask for a seperate check BEFORE you order. Keep cash so if there's an issue you can just throw down the cash and leave
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    counteryourcou... I've foiled these plans by tossing $20 on top of the check and say "this should cover my salad and 30% tip".
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